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Post by Mayleng on Nov 19, 2008 15:50:31 GMT -5
The idea for this board came as a suggestion from Healthy11. As we all know, she has been facing issues with her son's first year at college. The transition years after high school are very difficult for all kids, not necessarily just kids who have ADHD and/or LDs, and not just for kids going to college. Seeing that many of our children are growing up fast, but still need guidance, we thought it would be a good idea to start this board so that we can gain some knowledge through the experiences of members who do have older kids. I am glad to announce that Healthy11 has agreed to help us moderate this board along with SharonF and the rest of the moderators. This board, as with all other boards on this site, is subject to the rules and guidelines of this site which can be found here millermom.proboards107.com/index.cgi?board=sub&action=display&thread=6556Please understand that we don't have much experience dealing with young adults and all their issues, so we do not have all the answers. Hopefully, we can keep this a positive board and help each other along the way.
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Post by bros on Nov 23, 2008 22:35:40 GMT -5
I'll try to help out here with tips.
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Post by cobyseven on Nov 23, 2008 22:40:07 GMT -5
great idea. kudos healthy
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Post by healthy11 on Nov 23, 2008 23:41:22 GMT -5
There's no way we can make this a high quality board without your help! Each of us has different college knowledge, and that includes people with neurotypical kids at the university level, like you Coby! Bros, we're "counting on your first-hand expertise," especially if questions about vocational rehab come up.... We realize some students may choose the military or alternate training programs after high school graduation, so hopefully as other parents/young adults learn about them, they'll also share what they know.
Thanks again to Mayleng, and all the volunteers/members who helps to make Millerom's such a well-regarded and highly respected forum!
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Post by shawbridge on Nov 24, 2008 1:01:27 GMT -5
Good idea. We're working on college applications during a gap year but are beginning to have the same sick in November/fatigue issues that we've had in most other years. He has about 12 college applications to do -- I've been taking dictation -- but he's too sick and/or tired to do much. Ah well.
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Post by jisp on Nov 24, 2008 6:39:48 GMT -5
Thanks for creating this. This is a great idea. We just had an IEP meeting where the team managed to convince our son to delay the college application process until next year and to take the SAT and the ACT and to reapply for accommodations.
One suggestion I would make is to change the title of the board from "The College Years/Young Adult" to be more inclusive for those parents whose children might not be heading off to college to something like "Transition from High School/Young Adult".
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Post by bros on Nov 24, 2008 10:51:59 GMT -5
Shawbridge, if you can, why not do the applications online?
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Post by greenie on Nov 24, 2008 10:58:41 GMT -5
This is great. Thank you for this.
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Post by tootallmom on Nov 24, 2008 12:44:19 GMT -5
I was thrilled when I saw this new forum! Thanks
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Post by majorv on Nov 24, 2008 13:29:09 GMT -5
I'm really looking forward to reading this board! My neurotypical daughter just started college this semester. I, too, hope you won't forget about those kids who don't have college in their plans. DS will be transitioning from high school to a career in a couple of years...or at least that's the plan now.
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Post by SharonF on Nov 24, 2008 14:31:18 GMT -5
jisp and Majorv--
You're right--this section is not only about young adults who are in college now or about high school students who plan to go to college. We wrestled for a long time with what to call this section. Because MillerMoms is mainly about "education support," we chose to use the word "college years" as part of the title, but also say "young adults."
We intend this section to include all post-secondary options: military, career, volunteer work such as Peace Corps, community college, apprenticeships, and four-year colleges/universities.
It's also not limited to the overcoming LDs or ADHD. Sharing info about launching neurotypcs is fine!
It's also not limited to parents. It's where K-12 meets the "real world"--whatever that reality happens to be. It's where years of helping kids adapt to their LDs/ADHD/whatever their challenges pay off as those kids become productive adults (we HOPE!!!) It's where young adults like bros can jump on and share their experiences with each other. Of course, parents are welcome to share, ask, and advise.
healthy and I are finding that the challenges don't stop when our kids go to college. Not only do we NOT have the answers, but I seem to have more questions!! I finally had the K-12 thing nearly figured out. But with my ds in college hundreds of miles away and hitting some major struggles in various aspects of his life, I'm back to square one. But he's no longer a little boy. He's a legal adult. My dh and I must use different parenting skills than we did when he was younger.
So we don't have the answers. But we're here to support and encourage each other!
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Post by rw on Nov 24, 2008 16:11:39 GMT -5
This is a great idea! I have a 23 year old (no TS, OCD, or ADHD like his brother) that has successfully made it through college, so this will be great. There's definately still issues after they reach "adulthood".
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Post by Mayleng on Nov 24, 2008 16:14:52 GMT -5
This is a great idea! I have a 23 year old (no TS, OCD, or ADHD like his brother) that has successfully made it through college, so this will be great. There's definately still issues after they reach "adulthood". don't tell me that, I was looking forward to a peaceful retirement once my kids graduate.
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Post by rw on Nov 24, 2008 16:20:01 GMT -5
This is a great idea! I have a 23 year old (no TS, OCD, or ADHD like his brother) that has successfully made it through college, so this will be great. There's definately still issues after they reach "adulthood". don't tell me that, I was looking forward to a peaceful retirement once my kids graduate. Mayleng, Here's what a friend once told me about children growing up and leaving home. She said no one ever told me your children would grow up, leave home, reproduce, and then come back with more (she had 3 grown children who had married, divorced, and returned with their kids, all living with them). LOL
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Post by Mayleng on Nov 24, 2008 16:30:10 GMT -5
Oh, my sil tells me that all the time. She has 5 kids, and she says when they finally left, they come back and bring back more people with them - their spouses and children. Thank God they don't live with her, they just visit but there is always one there at any one time. They just come back whether she is home or not.
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Post by shawbridge on Nov 24, 2008 21:43:44 GMT -5
bros, he can do part of it online -- the main application including the essay, extracurricular, and additional info as well as the college supplements. However, he was partially home-schooled so we have to send in that part separately as the answers to their questions don't easily fit into the boxes they leave. Plus, he's doing an art supplement and examples of his homeschooling work.
I can help with the logistics but he has to write the essays, and many of his schools ask for an additional essay or two.
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Post by zippity on Nov 24, 2008 22:30:59 GMT -5
THis is great. I am getting closer to this everyday with my sophomore. I keep saying he'll get more from me when his sister needs less. Well not happening. So I like this and appreciate anything anyone can offer. Come January I will be putting in for his SAT accommodations.
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Post by bros on Nov 25, 2008 6:55:18 GMT -5
Zippity, get the SAT Accommodation forms in as soon as possible. It takes FOREVER to get accommodations. Took me almost 2 years.
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Post by shawbridge on Nov 25, 2008 10:37:01 GMT -5
Zippity, I second bros's suggestion. It took us one full year to get with a couple of appeals.
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Post by bros on Nov 25, 2008 16:49:10 GMT -5
It took me two because the case manager refused to let my parents fill out the forms. The case manager finally relented and told us that we wouldn't be able to fill it out better than her, then we saw that she checked a box that basically said "we have no documentation for this disability but we are filing for this accom anyway"
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Post by michellea on Nov 25, 2008 17:08:19 GMT -5
Great idea!!!!!!! While I'm not in need of this board immediatly - time moves very fast. I'm glad to know that you'll be here to help guide me. Thanks.
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Post by mamak on Nov 25, 2008 18:48:03 GMT -5
Yes ditto on what michellea said! We have learned a lot from those who have walked before us and surely this will really help many because there is probably nowhere else to find what your experiences will bring to us. Thanks!
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Post by mmm on Jan 16, 2009 20:49:34 GMT -5
Count me in. DD's college application are all done - guess what we did for Christmas vacation!!! Many were online but there is no way a kid can do some of that stuff alone-tricky double-negative in-state residency questions, income tax questions. What a nightmare! And get out the visa card. And we've all heard it before, start early. Hard to believe she will be finished school in a few months.
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Post by greenie on Aug 21, 2009 9:44:14 GMT -5
my kids are not college bound...we can discuss young adults here, right?
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Post by healthy11 on Aug 22, 2009 14:18:34 GMT -5
Yes, Greenie, this part of the board is for all kinds of issues involving kids over age 18/past high school. There's already a discussion regarding young adults who chose military paths, etc.
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