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Post by hopeful on Nov 3, 2003 21:28:39 GMT -5
My adhd/anxiety 6yo is totally freaked about getting involved in any sports. This has always been the case. He's much more comfortable with accedemics and school. He has anxieties about "failing" or loosing. My husband and I are both into non-competitive sports. Neither of us excells, we just really enjoy doing what we do. He wants nothing of it. It doesn't matter that his best friends are playing soccer, mini hoops, t-ball. He tried Karate, and he really liked it, then all of a sudden after a couple of weeks, he put the breaks on.
The Wellbutrin LX has really helped with his focus. He's on imipramine for anxiety, and in some ways, he's almost more anxious.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Post by eaccae on Nov 3, 2003 21:40:55 GMT -5
Sounds a lot like my son. He doesn't have anxiety but he won't do any sports. He is extremely athletic but refuses to get involved in sports. He tried lacrosse for a little while and then just refused to go. ( Although - he did enjoy it. He also went to Karate for almost a year and loved it.) All of a sudden he refused to go.
Sorry I don't have any suggestions! I just now if I push him too hard it makes it worse. He rides his moutain bike and can actually see him getting into track when he is older. But I guess for now I figure if he is that uncomfortable with it - he won't enjoy it. When he is older he may or may not be more comfortable. I know in my case I didn't join sports until junior high and then I went all the way through varsity - went to summer sports camps, etc. I have a feeling that he just doesn't want to do team sports. And although Karate isn't a team sport - I think somehow he feels like it is. He is getting into guitar slowly. And in January he starts swimming lessons again so I am hoping these activities will get him out of the house. I would love to hear suggestions as well.
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Post by vickilyn32 on Nov 4, 2003 13:04:15 GMT -5
I would not worry if you son is not ready for sports. Some kids ( I was one) just never really get into sports. He will find his own hobbies that he enjoys and will be very happy with them. If you push him into something he will never enjoy it. I found when I was 10 that I enjoyed horse riding. I got into competetions and took lessons for years. I never did get into much else. Maybe he would enjoy something that is not sports related like 4-H or scouts. As long as he gets outside and runs around some or rides a bike he is getting enough exercise to keep healthy. Maybe he would enjoy going for walks with you each night. It would give him exercise, and give you time to talk to each other.
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Post by hopeful on Nov 4, 2003 16:12:53 GMT -5
It's not just sports. It's physical activity. Actually, it really seems like it's anxiety based. He's totally freaked out if he feels like he's messed up, or not done it perfect. I can also tell that he really wants to participate, but it's scarey to him.
He is not interest in scouts either. He did like to kayak with me once a week, but it's just getting too cold for him to enjoy it now. I just want him to have an outlet to burn energy.
He has some really nice boys as friends at school. He's told them he's too embarrased to "try". 2 friends in particular said they would help him learn soccoer, but he was just too scared.
He's also more scared then ever about car noises. He did great on Halloween Trick or Treating, but on a regular days he's very much scared of cars. This anxiety has also gotten worse so maybe it is a medication issue.
I guess I'm just really feeling sorry for him since he finally has some really nice friends he can hang out with, except they're all involved in something. I can just tell he's getting frustrated with himself again and that's just painful for me to see and not be able to do anything for him.
We have behavior mgmt today and a doc appt next week. I'll ask both of them about this.
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