Post by healthy11 on Nov 28, 2016 10:22:37 GMT -5
www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/want-to-raise-successful-kids-science-says-praise-them-like-this-most-parents-do.html
This short article has a lot of good information. It talks about research by Stanford psychology professor Dr. Carol Dweck, and efforts to teach kids to have "growth mindsets" over "fixed mindsets." (A fixed mindset is the belief that intelligence, for example, is almost entirely innate. Either you're born with great smarts and ability to achieve, or you're not. A growth mindset, on the other hand, is the belief that achievement is much more variable, and that intelligence and problem-solving abilities can be developed over time.) How parents and others praise children, even toddlers, can help them develop growth mindsets.
Among the study findings:
Students with a fixed mindset had one goal in mind: "Look smart at all times and at all costs." That meant that they worked to avoid any task that might betray that they weren't as smart as they thought they were.
Students with a growth mindset, on the other hand, didn't care if their mistakes were revealed to their peers; they saw this as inevitable and nothing to be ashamed of, because their goal was to "learn at all times and at all costs."
Instead of saying, "You're so smart," or praising a child for solving a puzzle or accomplishing an easy goal, Dweck suggests saying something like, "I'm sorry I wasted your time. Let's do something hard--something you can learn from." Instead of asking your kids at dinner, "how was school today," go around the table and ask everyone to share a story of how they struggled with something. (Parents have to share, too!)
Read the full article for more details.
This short article has a lot of good information. It talks about research by Stanford psychology professor Dr. Carol Dweck, and efforts to teach kids to have "growth mindsets" over "fixed mindsets." (A fixed mindset is the belief that intelligence, for example, is almost entirely innate. Either you're born with great smarts and ability to achieve, or you're not. A growth mindset, on the other hand, is the belief that achievement is much more variable, and that intelligence and problem-solving abilities can be developed over time.) How parents and others praise children, even toddlers, can help them develop growth mindsets.
Among the study findings:
Students with a fixed mindset had one goal in mind: "Look smart at all times and at all costs." That meant that they worked to avoid any task that might betray that they weren't as smart as they thought they were.
Students with a growth mindset, on the other hand, didn't care if their mistakes were revealed to their peers; they saw this as inevitable and nothing to be ashamed of, because their goal was to "learn at all times and at all costs."
Instead of saying, "You're so smart," or praising a child for solving a puzzle or accomplishing an easy goal, Dweck suggests saying something like, "I'm sorry I wasted your time. Let's do something hard--something you can learn from." Instead of asking your kids at dinner, "how was school today," go around the table and ask everyone to share a story of how they struggled with something. (Parents have to share, too!)
Read the full article for more details.
