Post by healthy11 on Sept 1, 2014 21:20:37 GMT -5
vp4, a child's mental and physical and emotional health should never be ignored, but it's critical for parents to maintain their own health, too. I know you mentioned a potential job with a California tech firm. I don't know if a change is imminent, or if it would mean you would move or could telecommute, but in any case, I wouldn't delay seeing a professional to talk with.
In much the same way that empeg1 mentioned her daughter's friend who is 30 but successful and still watches Youtube, I can share that my son was at our house for Labor Day, and in many ways it reminded me of when he was in High School, with one important exception. He basically sat around watching Youtube videos, still mostly involving cars and motorcycles (now he even sends links to his dad of interesting things to view.) In addition, he had a steady stream of old high school friends come visit at our house. All of the kids are now over 21 and have graduated and are either working or in grad school, yet they seem happy to revert to their old ways whenever they can. My son is definitely the messiest, leaving dirty dishes and clothes in every room (though I wonder if the friends are lazier at their own parent's homes, and he's neater there?) My son also exhibits little patience and often speaks rudely, especially when I ask him anything, versus how he talks with his friends.
In spite of all that, I have to remember that life is full of "steps forward and back" and here's the exception I mentioned earlier: for as frustrating as my son can be, he became much more pleasant when he started asking us questions about a topic that HE was interested in. In this case, it was about how escrow accounts work, because he has made an offer on a house for sale in the town he works in. He was motivated to do it because of his love for cars and motorcycles, and his desire for having garage space to tinker in, which he can't get in an apartment. Granted, he's working in a town that has a very depressed economy and there are many foreclosed properties that he can get for a very reasonable price, but even he admitted that "he never imagined he'd be the first one of his friends to buy a place and look forward to settling down." (It still might not come to pass, because his offer hasn't been accepted by the seller yet, but again, the point is that when our kids find things THEY like, it can lead to some of the most unexpected outcomes. I can't wait to see how he maintains cleanliness in a house once it's his, versus ours!)
In much the same way that empeg1 mentioned her daughter's friend who is 30 but successful and still watches Youtube, I can share that my son was at our house for Labor Day, and in many ways it reminded me of when he was in High School, with one important exception. He basically sat around watching Youtube videos, still mostly involving cars and motorcycles (now he even sends links to his dad of interesting things to view.) In addition, he had a steady stream of old high school friends come visit at our house. All of the kids are now over 21 and have graduated and are either working or in grad school, yet they seem happy to revert to their old ways whenever they can. My son is definitely the messiest, leaving dirty dishes and clothes in every room (though I wonder if the friends are lazier at their own parent's homes, and he's neater there?) My son also exhibits little patience and often speaks rudely, especially when I ask him anything, versus how he talks with his friends.
In spite of all that, I have to remember that life is full of "steps forward and back" and here's the exception I mentioned earlier: for as frustrating as my son can be, he became much more pleasant when he started asking us questions about a topic that HE was interested in. In this case, it was about how escrow accounts work, because he has made an offer on a house for sale in the town he works in. He was motivated to do it because of his love for cars and motorcycles, and his desire for having garage space to tinker in, which he can't get in an apartment. Granted, he's working in a town that has a very depressed economy and there are many foreclosed properties that he can get for a very reasonable price, but even he admitted that "he never imagined he'd be the first one of his friends to buy a place and look forward to settling down." (It still might not come to pass, because his offer hasn't been accepted by the seller yet, but again, the point is that when our kids find things THEY like, it can lead to some of the most unexpected outcomes. I can't wait to see how he maintains cleanliness in a house once it's his, versus ours!)