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Post by healthy11 on Sept 11, 2013 21:48:47 GMT -5
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Post by hope4all on Sept 21, 2013 17:43:02 GMT -5
Thanks Healthy. Good information.
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Post by healthy11 on Oct 14, 2013 15:25:00 GMT -5
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Post by empeg1 on Oct 14, 2013 20:21:37 GMT -5
Children learn to regulate their emotions through attachment to primary caregivers, so that the attachment and sense of safety from a secure attachment figures regulates the infant and very young child, at a time that the frontal cortex is developing. When a secure attachment is not present and a young child is continually overwhelmed, the development of above areas of the cortex is affected, so that difficulty with self-regulation is affected long term.
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Post by dwolen on Oct 16, 2013 20:58:18 GMT -5
Beyond attachment parenting, learning to regulate emotions is easier for some children, harder for others. I think in born temperament is a factor, and the neurocognitive wiring that the child starts with plays a big part. I believe my dd started out life with more irritability/sensitivity than many infants, though infants in general are a mass of unregulated neurons. My dd could not tolerate being outside for the first month of life, and had pitiful and intense crying when put in a stroller until she was 3 months. Fortunately, baby slings and front packs had become available and popular. This sensitivity evolved into an intense shyness as a young child, and a screaming mimi as a middle school and teenager, with a very short fuse, and oh, so easily offended. I think the emotional dysregluation was a manifestation of the executive functioning weaknesses. As a young adult, dd has found tranquility and emotional regulation via the daily practice of meditation over the last 3+ years. She started with transcendental meditation, and now mindfulness meditation. It is hard to offend her nowadays, and it is amazing to see how readily she regulates her emotions.
How I wish I had known all this when dd was a child, and about the tools for helping children with emotional regulation. I would have used every tool that is now available to help her with her EF/emotional regulation. And, how I wish I knew about emotional regulation as a teen. I was attached to my mother in a healthy way in infancy/early childhood. My executive functions were pretty good in that I did not have trouble functioning in school/work, but my emotional regulation was apparently off, because I spiraled down into depressed moods on a regular basis from the age of 13 or so.
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