Post by TaynTysmom on Jan 31, 2006 21:01:07 GMT -5
I have been lurking on this board for a couple of years. I want you all to know that, over this time, I have gotten so much information and support from your experiences.
My ds is in second grade and is 8. He has a wonderful classroom teacher that understands his issues and is willing to help in anyway she can. He was officially diagnosed with ADHD at 5-6 (kindergarten). Since that time, we have used Ritalin, Concerta and his is now on Focalin...doing okay.
We haven't had too much trouble with the staff understanding and helping him work through his issues. We finally got him an IEP and some help for his writing and test taking anxiety, etc. I am a firm believer that he has ADHD behaviors and then there are 8 year old boy behaviors. I am fully aware of both!
With that said, this year, he has changed classes for two subjects, Science and Social Studies. His only real issue at school, while on meds, is that he talks constantly. In these two classes, the teachers ride him constantly. He comes home daily with a "yellow". He had to flip a card because he was talking.
I know I took the long way to get to my point...sorry. But, on Friday, he came home with an "orange". My son is not a discipline problem. He is sweet, caring and very smart. As I said, his only issue is talking. So, and "orange" alarmed me. What I understand is that another child with "behavior issues" was disturbing him. He was trying to tell this child to stop and leave him alone. The teacher told my son to "flip your card". He did. Then, the other child continued to bother my son again, "flip your card". When leaving the classroom, ds tried to explain to the teacher that he was trying to get the teacher's help. "Flip your card again. Were you talking?" Yes, but I was trying...you know the rest of the story.
So, when ds got home and told me the story, he said, "mommy, I thought that teachers were supposed to help us. I guess Mr. teacher didn't know that". Today, he didn't want to go to school because he would have to go to science with that teacher. When he did go to science, that teacher moved him away from everyone.
My question is: I need to help prepare my son for those types of encounters. He is going to be in that situation on more occasions than I can count. I think it is just a given. But, I would like to arm him with some positive and respectful responses.
Another factor to this is that I am a School Board Member in our district. So, I have to be very, very careful how I deal with teachers directly as to not be seen as "using my authority to benefit my child".
Any help is much appreciated.
D
P.S. All three of the teachers and I had a discussion today. I believe this type of situation will be handled different in the future.
My ds is in second grade and is 8. He has a wonderful classroom teacher that understands his issues and is willing to help in anyway she can. He was officially diagnosed with ADHD at 5-6 (kindergarten). Since that time, we have used Ritalin, Concerta and his is now on Focalin...doing okay.
We haven't had too much trouble with the staff understanding and helping him work through his issues. We finally got him an IEP and some help for his writing and test taking anxiety, etc. I am a firm believer that he has ADHD behaviors and then there are 8 year old boy behaviors. I am fully aware of both!
With that said, this year, he has changed classes for two subjects, Science and Social Studies. His only real issue at school, while on meds, is that he talks constantly. In these two classes, the teachers ride him constantly. He comes home daily with a "yellow". He had to flip a card because he was talking.
I know I took the long way to get to my point...sorry. But, on Friday, he came home with an "orange". My son is not a discipline problem. He is sweet, caring and very smart. As I said, his only issue is talking. So, and "orange" alarmed me. What I understand is that another child with "behavior issues" was disturbing him. He was trying to tell this child to stop and leave him alone. The teacher told my son to "flip your card". He did. Then, the other child continued to bother my son again, "flip your card". When leaving the classroom, ds tried to explain to the teacher that he was trying to get the teacher's help. "Flip your card again. Were you talking?" Yes, but I was trying...you know the rest of the story.
So, when ds got home and told me the story, he said, "mommy, I thought that teachers were supposed to help us. I guess Mr. teacher didn't know that". Today, he didn't want to go to school because he would have to go to science with that teacher. When he did go to science, that teacher moved him away from everyone.
My question is: I need to help prepare my son for those types of encounters. He is going to be in that situation on more occasions than I can count. I think it is just a given. But, I would like to arm him with some positive and respectful responses.
Another factor to this is that I am a School Board Member in our district. So, I have to be very, very careful how I deal with teachers directly as to not be seen as "using my authority to benefit my child".
Any help is much appreciated.
D
P.S. All three of the teachers and I had a discussion today. I believe this type of situation will be handled different in the future.