Is this related to ADHD?

[redfaun]

I was just thinking...my dd is having trouble in school with respect. It has happen the past few weeks where he has been disrespectful to his teacher. By way of, not answering her question (just starring at her), or taking an an attitude or making bad faces when he is being corrected. My husband and I see some of this behavior at home with us, which we do not tolorate. Anyway, I also see that the disrespect in class seems to associate with him not following directions. One of the 2nd grade classroom rules is to, "Follow directions the first time." This seems to be difficult for him quite often. I must admit that he is attending a private catholic school that is very much about dicipline and being responsible for your actions. He really seems to struggle with making good choices during class. This is not an everyday occurance and he has been known (4 times last week)to have great days where he is rewarded by the teacher for making good choices, however, we seem to be seeing this more frequently lately. We have an appointment with his doctor (psy) tomorrow and he is still not at his appropriate dose of Staterra and I will be discussing this with the doctor. We met with the teacher last week and she said that he is not showing the "typical" ADHD behavior and for the most part, is getting his work done and staying on task (mostly). So, I continue to wonder if this is ADHD related or just a behavioral problem. One thing, he doesn't seem to "get it", you know what I mean? Bringing home these, "notice of concern letters" doesn't seem to make him understand how serious this situation is. He can't seem to think of the future. Sometimes I feel like I am beating my head against a brick wall that won't budge. My husband and I are very supportive to him, giving him much positive feedback, etc. It's very frustrating. He just doesn't see the big picture no matter how large we draw it for him.

[ilovemyboys]

It can just be an age thing. He is in 2nd grade? Thats about the time when they start to get an "attitude". I do think he is a little young for him to be thinking about more of a future than that afternoon....Most kids need constant reinforcement of whats acceptable and what is not. ADHD kids have a very hard time with impulse control - but it is still important that they learn it. It will just take longer.

[brazos]

I think it can be a thing of they do get distracted, the teachers do fuss. They are tired of hearing the teacher talk, and yes they have low esteem in some cases. I think all of it adds up. Here is what you need to remember, the teacher expects a lot. I was in class for my regular kid, sometimes you begin to understand why kids act out. They feel ignored, behind and frustrated. So yes she should be respectful but are they being respectful to her?

[redfaun]

Yea, I think what you'all were saying makes complete sense. He is in 2nd grade and does show some attitude. I see that. Thank you for you input. I need to remember sometimes that he is only 7 years old and still learning and growing. He's a wonderful boy, really.