Giving up on teacher

[2pearl]

I've posted a few other threads about the horrible experience we have been having with ds 4th grade teacher.
She's a first year (which isn't neccesarily a bad thing, but in this case it is) and just clearly loathes my child. It has truly been a nightmare. My husband and I went to the principal 2 weeks ago just to let her know whats been going on. Nothing has changed since and we didn't really expect it to.
I'm in the school a lot as a volunteer in fact I'm the head room rep for the teacher from hell. Awkward! I see her all the time and we talk, she complains etc..
We are going to be going to a new psych on the 22nd and I'm sure we will be starting new meds. I don't even want to talk this woman about my son anymore. I don't believe her capable of helping him in anyway. At this point I want to focus on getting him out of 4th grade with as much of his self esteem left intact as possible.

Do you guys think I need an attitude adjustment? I don't want to wait until summer to start helping my son. But I'm concerned that addressing his ADHD needs w/ medicine without the cooperation of his teacher will just make everything worse? I know I should probably try AGAIN to get her on board but I just don't have the heart for it. This teacher makes my skin crawl. a*g

[dmom32002]

NOpe I don't, there are just some teachers
you can't get through too.

Is there someone else that can help you.

donna

[eaccae]

No-you don't need an attitude adjustment. We had a similar experience with the third grade teacher last year. Nightmare! Lot's of meetings . . . there came a point for my own sanity when I realized that nothing was going to change and I had to suck it up and just try to get through the year. I tried not to let anything she wrote, said , etc. get to me. (She was great at either leaving me a nasty voicemail or writing a nasty note at least once a week). I just concentrated on DS and getting through the year the best way that I could. It wasn't easy but it was definitely a lot easier when I gave in. Unfortunately there are some teachers like that and no matter what you do it is like hitting your head on a brick wall. We had meetings with the principal as well. Only AFTER the school year did the principal realize/acknowledge that there was a real problem. I also know that DS wasn't the only child on her black list. There were several. I guarantee you that this teacher is also doing the same thing with other children in her class.

There is hope. This year his teacher is the best he's ever had. Keep your chin up - just try and get through the year the best way that you can - ignore the teacher when you can and concentrate on your son! Hopefully you can get through this year and next year will be better!

[2pearl]

eaccae oh my goodness it sounds like a nearly identical situation! Yes, I already know for a fact that his teacher next year will be wonderful. The principal did agree to have him placed there. And yes, there are other kids who are on her black list.
It took two thirds of the year to get her to consistenly sign his agenda each day. Now, she finally does after we went to the principal and my husband and I joke that it's "the negative comment de jour" because she just CAN NOT say anything good about our child.
I must say that surrendering has been just the ticket for the mental health of my family!

[willoweezie]

We had a first year teacher last year, and while she wasn't the teacher from hell, she was actually very nice, I don't think she had enough experience to deal with a child with any sort of "issues". The only progress we saw was when she implemented some things I recommended after reading a transcript of a seminar by Russell Barkley and Ross Greene's "The Explosive Child".

Last year in general was from hell. I had major conflicts with the school administrators and I downright despised one of the assistant principals who clearly loathed Sage as well. IEP meetings were horrible and I almost laughed out loud when they told me that S was "welcome to come back" once she was straightened out by the ED program they were trying to force on me. As you probably know, she is now in said ED program and hell will freeze over before I put her back in the school that was only concerned with their GT program and "normal" children.

Man, I wrote "hell" alot in this post!