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Post by Gillian on Aug 9, 2004 17:20:31 GMT -5
Well tomorrow I have my school meeting. I suspect they are going to say they want him in their special classroom because he has only just been put on medication for his miriad of problems which we are still sorting out. My husband wants him to be given a chance in a regular class and I am mixed. The medications (Clonidine and Risperdel) are helping but he can still get anxious and upset (it's just more muted and a little easier to handlle). There is no way he is going to agree to go in a special class - his friends will all want to know why etc. So what do I do if they say this? He may well need a special class for a while but I don't see any way to do it there. I now think homeschooling is out as he needs more help than I think I can give him. Private school? But how will that help unless it's very specialized? You can bet they most appropriate school will be 100 miles away!! Aaaaaugh! School is not even in and I'm getting ulcers.
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Post by LurkNoMore on Aug 10, 2004 14:31:52 GMT -5
Hi Gillian, How old is your son? My son, C, is 10 going into 5th grade. We had to sort through this at the end of last year and made the tough decision to put him in a self-contained classroom (last year was a really rough year for him with a teacher that had no clue how to handle him - even with the help of a one-on-one aide...UGH!) C will have to change schools for his last year of elementary school...so far he is doing OK with the thought of it (but I know there will be some tears in Sept...from both of us). At the end of the school year, I had a hard time telling anyone and burst into tears when I had to tell 2 of his friends mothers (when they asked the simple question of who does C have next year). I have gotten better with it and am hoping that this school year he has success! My advice is to go with your gut and present it to him (and hubby) as this is what you need to have a better school year...I'm still not sure what the neighborhood kids will say when they realize that C is not on their bus (at least his bus will come later), but I keep presenting it to people that C needs more help and we are trying to get him the help he needs before middle school. Keep your chin up (and know that there are people here that are going through the same things that you are)...GOOD LUCK!!!  |
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Post by Gillian on Aug 16, 2004 10:24:33 GMT -5
Thank you for the kind words. I hope your son is having a better year. My son is 9 and in 4th grade. We had our meeting and for now he is in the regular classroom. The school personnel seem willing to give him a chance and try to accommodate his oddities at the moment. Of course he hasn't flipped out in class yet! My son is on Clonidine and Risperdel and I do think it is helping. He is thinking more before reacting which is helping things from getting out of control. I am still on edge at home though - waiting for that phone to ring to tell me to come to school (as it did a million times towards the end of the last school year) - its so tiring being on 'alert' all the time. Anyway, good luck with your school year - let's keep in touch.
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Post by vickilyn32 on Aug 17, 2004 8:22:32 GMT -5
I just wanted to send you both "good luck" for the next school year. MY DS is in 8th grade, but I remember 4th - 6th as being very hard for him. Remember that these grades are hard on almost all of the kids whether they have adhd or not. I know some of Dans friends had problems and they are so called "normal".
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Post by Gillian on Aug 17, 2004 10:11:07 GMT -5
Would you believe right after I typed that the phone rang!! It was school but not because my son was flipping out. He had decided not to go to an after school event and wanted me to pick him up at the usual time and had become anxious about it. The Principal had decided to diffuse the situation by calling me and getting my okay on it . It was a good move on her part and I appreciated her effort as once he becomes aggitated it can become hard to figure out what is wrong. I do believe school is making some effort with him this year - now that I've got it across to them that he is not just being a 'bad kid' but there really is something amiss in his world which we are trying to figure out.
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Post by LurkNoMore on Aug 17, 2004 20:32:05 GMT -5
Glad to hear that school is off to a good start for your son, Gillian! We still have a couple of more weeks until school starts (9/8)...we are enjoying our last few weeks of freedom!
Yes, lets keep in touch!
Vickylyn...thanks for your kind words, too! And, for sharing that there is some light at the end of the tunnel!
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