Post by LurkNoMore on May 14, 2004 13:41:26 GMT -5
OK...I'm really glad I wasn't at my desk when C's teacher called, so she left me a voicemail...
C is 10, ADHD, 4th grade...we had "restructured" his day in February (b/c his 2nd report card was horrible, b/c she didn't know that he hadn't turned in a lot of his work)...he is sitting by himself, near her desk (instead of at a "table" with 4 other kids). He actually likes the seating, says it is less distracting. She prepares a "checklist" of work for him to do (usually with the aide) and b/c he's been off task lately, hasn't been too much a part of the classroom. She called me earlier in the week to say she wanted to have him be more a part of the class, lay off the checklist, so he could be "happy"...I told her that is fine, but he still has to do his work (even if it means sending it home)...she basically said "whatever".
Yesterday, was the school concert (in school in the morning for chorus and at night band and chorus). She was out yesterday, but the aide wrote me a note telling me that C behaved badly...he was making bunny ears on the kid in front of him and being "inappropriate". The resource room teacher had to go up to him and reprimand him. Last night, before the concert...I gave him his afternoon dose late (just before 6 pm) because they had band rehearsal at 6 pm and the concert was from 7:30 till about 8:30. I also laid down the law to him to BEHAVE...I saw the chorus teacher b-4 the concert and told her that I had spoken to him and she seemed to appreciate it...and he did do (for the most part) very well at the concert...actually moved his lips for most of the song.
Today, I get this message from her...
I just wanted to give you a quick update. I'm sure that you heard about C's behavior at the daytime concert yesterday. Everyone was pretty upset about how he was acting and just the complete lack of control and some of the children were upset. But also another thing is when I sat down and looked at all of the children's grades, he's failing a lot of things...he's failed the past 2 math tests and the past 4 science grades have been failures. So I'm getting a little concerned about that and I want you to keep in mind that if I let up on this restrictive checklist, it's going to start his grades going down b/c I'm letting him be more independent. So I'm a little bit worried, so I just wanted to let you know that the grades were falling. I'll talk to you soon.
2nd message...
I thought maybe I would catch you again. My last message was kind of rushed because I was starting to run out of time on your machine. My concern is the drop in the grades, and I think with the less structured day that is the kind of trend we are going to see because I'm going to start try to hold him to the standards of the other kids and I'm afraid that the drop in grades is going to continue. So I just wanted to talk to you about it and get your feelings. You know I don't want to set him up for failure even though I want him to be a part of the class. So I just wanted to get your thoughts. Either drop me a note or give me a call. Talk to you soon.
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UGH! I haven't called her back because I am fuming. Why did they put him with her? Any feedback of what my next step with her should be? I am off on Mondays, so I am thinking of offering to go into the classroom and spend the day (instead of cleaning and grocery shopping) to see if there is anything I can do to help. Hubby is off next Friday, so he said if Monday helps, he could go in on Friday!
I CAN'T WAIT FOR THIS YEAR TO BE OVER!
Thanks for letting me vent!
C is 10, ADHD, 4th grade...we had "restructured" his day in February (b/c his 2nd report card was horrible, b/c she didn't know that he hadn't turned in a lot of his work)...he is sitting by himself, near her desk (instead of at a "table" with 4 other kids). He actually likes the seating, says it is less distracting. She prepares a "checklist" of work for him to do (usually with the aide) and b/c he's been off task lately, hasn't been too much a part of the classroom. She called me earlier in the week to say she wanted to have him be more a part of the class, lay off the checklist, so he could be "happy"...I told her that is fine, but he still has to do his work (even if it means sending it home)...she basically said "whatever".
Yesterday, was the school concert (in school in the morning for chorus and at night band and chorus). She was out yesterday, but the aide wrote me a note telling me that C behaved badly...he was making bunny ears on the kid in front of him and being "inappropriate". The resource room teacher had to go up to him and reprimand him. Last night, before the concert...I gave him his afternoon dose late (just before 6 pm) because they had band rehearsal at 6 pm and the concert was from 7:30 till about 8:30. I also laid down the law to him to BEHAVE...I saw the chorus teacher b-4 the concert and told her that I had spoken to him and she seemed to appreciate it...and he did do (for the most part) very well at the concert...actually moved his lips for most of the song.
Today, I get this message from her...
I just wanted to give you a quick update. I'm sure that you heard about C's behavior at the daytime concert yesterday. Everyone was pretty upset about how he was acting and just the complete lack of control and some of the children were upset. But also another thing is when I sat down and looked at all of the children's grades, he's failing a lot of things...he's failed the past 2 math tests and the past 4 science grades have been failures. So I'm getting a little concerned about that and I want you to keep in mind that if I let up on this restrictive checklist, it's going to start his grades going down b/c I'm letting him be more independent. So I'm a little bit worried, so I just wanted to let you know that the grades were falling. I'll talk to you soon.
2nd message...
I thought maybe I would catch you again. My last message was kind of rushed because I was starting to run out of time on your machine. My concern is the drop in the grades, and I think with the less structured day that is the kind of trend we are going to see because I'm going to start try to hold him to the standards of the other kids and I'm afraid that the drop in grades is going to continue. So I just wanted to talk to you about it and get your feelings. You know I don't want to set him up for failure even though I want him to be a part of the class. So I just wanted to get your thoughts. Either drop me a note or give me a call. Talk to you soon.
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UGH! I haven't called her back because I am fuming. Why did they put him with her? Any feedback of what my next step with her should be? I am off on Mondays, so I am thinking of offering to go into the classroom and spend the day (instead of cleaning and grocery shopping) to see if there is anything I can do to help. Hubby is off next Friday, so he said if Monday helps, he could go in on Friday!
I CAN'T WAIT FOR THIS YEAR TO BE OVER!
Thanks for letting me vent!