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Post by LaurieL on Jan 16, 2004 16:31:04 GMT -5
Hi everybody- I need some feedback regarding a situation that took place with my son and school. He is nine and goes to a catholic school. He had been asking the teacher for some time now to tell the class that he has ADHD-well she did the other day with out my permission during a class discussion. When he told me he was releived and said he felt like a load was lifted off his shoulders kids were being nice to him and he just felt so much better. I thought it was done in a positive way so I thougth ok we will run with it. Next day the teacher calls to see how he was and I say great but told her that I had not said it was ok to share this. Well to make a long story short she had several parents call and complain that his adhd is an excuse for letting him get off with stuff. (The parents were the reason I did not want this shared.) He does not get off with stuff and this is the first year his work has ever been lightly modified-no IEP in catholic schools. He has never been a big discipline problem and the main stuff for him has been social. Well now the school is trying to CYA the fact that she disclosed his condition and wanted to send out a letter explaining the situation. To which I said NO. In the mean time he has been told by the priciple that he is not to speak to one particular student who we have had issues with in the past or he will be suspended. Mind you this is a Catholic school. We do not have a meeting for two days with the priciple. I just want some feedback or good suggestions on this situation from you guys. Sorry this was so long thanks!
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Post by Mayleng on Jan 16, 2004 16:43:46 GMT -5
First of all, Let me say, I do not like Catholic Schools because they treated my son sooooooo bad, he is still paying the price in terms of self-esteem.
Now, why are these parents such busy bodies. It should be none of their business how the school treats your son. Even if the school wants to accomodate him and do so, it has nothing to do with the rest of the kids. It is nobodies' business whether your son has ADHD or NOT. The school should not be writing to parents explaining something that is totally personal and without your permission in the first place.
As for the other boys situation, what if the other boy speaks to him, or instigate something? Is HE going to be suspended or more than likely your son is the one who is going to be punished. This is not acceptable and you should put your foot down.
Catholic schools do not like ADHd or LD kids. I hate to say it. I am a Catholic and am ashamed of how they treated my son. If you see your son being targetted, get him out of there. The bashing of his self-esteem can be very detrimental.
Sorry to go on and on, but this hit a nerve with me.
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Post by LaurieL on Jan 16, 2004 16:59:27 GMT -5
Trust me it hit a big nerve with me. That is exactly my thoughts. Who is in charge of the school the parents or the principle. Plus my son said this kid pushed him yesterday and he didn't know what to do. I have been livid since this happened.
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Post by Mayleng on Jan 16, 2004 18:13:31 GMT -5
By the way, there are catholic school that do accomodate kids who need the accomodations. They may not be required unlike the Public Schools, but some still do for the welfare of the kids.
I would not let the Principal suspend your child because another child has a problem. Who is to know who is to blame and your son is the one being held accountable.
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Post by mattandchris on Jan 19, 2004 19:25:53 GMT -5
Trust is a huge issue with most of us. Once while at my son's school (long before he was diagnosed ADHD) I saw a teacher actually write the times kids were suppose to get medication up on the blackboard. As a parent I was appalled. That teacher has since retired. Probably a few years later than she should have.
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Post by Michaelsmom on Feb 1, 2004 17:34:54 GMT -5
We are having a real problem with the catholic issue at our house. I have been Catholic my whole life I attended Catholic school and so did my oldest son' With much regret we are trying to find another religion. Something more hands on and fun. Lets face it the Catholic's are not geared for kids. I always feel stressed because I know mike will stand out. If you are Catholic and reading this you can imagine the torture I am going through. But I figure if after attending a church we decide on.If it Doesn't rub off. When they are grown and gone I'll go back to my roots.For now I have to think of them and move on.I love my faith but it is faith right? No one can take that from me.Michael went to Catholic pre-school what a nightmare.  |
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