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Post by psm9958 on Nov 25, 2003 9:06:57 GMT -5
If the vice principal asks me one more time what being tardy has to do with AD/HD I will scream.
I have a few articles but would like to really hand him a stack full. Any suggestions? I have searched the web and haven't found a whole lot that specifically states the correlation between the 2. I also have found some articles regarding truancy and Ad/Hd.
I had to request an Absence Appeal and got a drs note saying that until my sons medication gets adjusted, he has tendency to be tardy. I have the review next week and want to be ready.
thanks
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Post by TerryB on Nov 26, 2003 19:38:09 GMT -5
Are you interested in gathering adaptive techniques to help your son not be tardy? Perhaps you've been through all that. Does he want to be on time?
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Post by Mommysalami on Nov 26, 2003 23:05:03 GMT -5
If the vice principal asks me one more time what being tardy has to do with AD/HD I will scream. I have a few articles but would like to really hand him a stack full. Any suggestions? I have searched the web and haven't found a whole lot that specifically states the correlation between the 2. I also have found some articles regarding truancy and Ad/Hd. I had to request an Absence Appeal and got a drs note saying that until my sons medication gets adjusted, he has tendency to be tardy. I have the review next week and want to be ready. thanks If you search yahoo, with the words ADHD and lateness you will find hundreds of articles. For some kids, this is an uncorrectable part of the disability. I know IEPs can reflect and excuse lateness of assignment completions through allowing kids more time. You don't say his age/grade. If he is still young, I think the school might feel you are responsible to get him there on time. If he is old enough to be getting to school on his own, I think you have a point. |
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Post by MomX2 on Dec 16, 2003 15:21:23 GMT -5
This is just a thought but if he asks again maybe you could come back with "could you offer me some suggestions to help him get to school on time?". If he makes some suggestions (even if you know they won't be helpful because you've tried them before) don't argue or disagree with him. Just go along with it and say you'll try that (within reason of course). Then if it doesn't work make an appointment to meet with him again and explain that it didn't work and what happened. Ask if he has any further suggestions. I know this could be time consuming but sometimes it takes a little work to bring others up to speed on the type of difficulties you are dealing with.
And if by some miracle he offers some suggestions that turn out to be helpful more power to everyone involved.
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Post by Gillian on Dec 17, 2003 10:36:37 GMT -5
Oh boy, we are always late for school (or rushing in at the last minute). It has always been like that for us and still is - my son is now 12 and in Junior High. It doesn't matter how early I get him up - at the very last minute he will wander back to his room, looking for something or to do something 'real quick'. It is a total pain. When he first started Junior High he was a little better because there was always the threat of detention but he has become comfortable at school now and couldn't care a less about that anymore. If anyone has some great solution let me know.
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Post by tiniree on Dec 29, 2003 15:14:24 GMT -5
Hang in there! We went thru this last year and it sucked (sorry, only word that fits  I WILL NOT placate my son's teachers or the school staff by pretending to ask their advice. Last year we were getting adjusted and like most ADHD'ers getting organized in the am was terrible! While I got the typical, "Well he needs to learn to be on time for later when he starts a job". I understand that! Duh! But, when the first 10 minutes of class is dedicated to hanging up coats and settling down, AND my son does these quickly and quietly AND hasn't missed anything, I am just grateful he made it! This year has been much better. Only tardy twice and that was because his younger (4) brother (who we are sure also has ADHD) couldn't get out the door! Hang in there! If he's not missing anything (like lessons, instructions, etc...) and is not disrupting class when he does arrive, just know you got him there safe and that "this too shall pass!" |
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Post by dansmommy on Dec 31, 2003 12:57:26 GMT -5
i was in the school office at ds's school awhile back about 15 minutes after school started and a kid was getting a tardy slip. The office staff just said "We're so glad you're here." I'm so glad my ds's at that school, although that isn't an issue we're having a big problem with right now. christie
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Post by Gillian on Jan 16, 2004 14:47:17 GMT -5
Do any of you get this? We arrive late at school because of the usual last minute nonsense. Then as we pull up my son gets all p'd off because maybe this will be one too many tardy slips and maybe he'll get detention (although while at home he claims he doesn't care about detention) - so I have to listen to this while sitting in front of the school. Then he wants me to just dream up some fool proof excuse for his lateness or better still just give him the day off!!!! Aaaaaugh! He, of course, is never the cause of the problem!!!!!!
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Post by joshiemom on Jan 20, 2004 15:07:58 GMT -5
I get a lot of flak at work because I'm constantly 3 -5 minutes late.
I hear ya Gillian! I have to deal almost every day with "I need to get something" etc at the last minute regardless of what time he gets up, what kind of a mood he's in, yada yada.
I make him pick out his clothes the night before and make him prepare his backpack the night before but each and every morning its the same thing.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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Post by Gillian on Jan 29, 2004 11:16:09 GMT -5
Okay, so he's finally got detention. Well, I walked into the attendance office with him today (he thought I was going to give them some lame excuse for his lateness) and asked about the detention. Turns out it was because he was taking too long to get to the next class (I presume he's done this several times) and not so much arriving late in the mornings. 'Ooooooh, says I', looking at him as he rolls his eyes, 'I see.' At that point I walked out without handing him any stupid excuse for his lateness this morning.
Aaaaaugh! I'm so sick of this. The mornings are turning into more and more of a battlefield and now he's 'meandering' to his classes. I keep refusing to give him excuses to hand them in the morning in the hope that he will finally wake up and move his butt - I don't think it's working. Aaaaugh and more Aaaaaugh!
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Post by MomX2 on Jan 29, 2004 13:54:41 GMT -5
This may or may not be helpful. I tell my daughter it's time to leave as much as 15 minutes before it's time to leave. She seems to be aware of time but will push it to the very last moment so I just set the moment sooner than we actually have to leave. I've also used timers so she knows how long she has for breakfast and I have 2 choices of breakfast sitting on the table for her. I keep her moving by having her clothes ready in advance and was told to have her dress in the bathroom rather than in her room as her toys and things are a distraction for her. I would probably even go so far as to reset my clocks if it were necessary. If possible it might help to have a child set their own timer. That way they don't get irritated and slow down more because they think you're harrassing them all the time.
I don't know about being late from one class to another though. I'd probably ask the therapist to step in and try to help me figure out what the procrastination was all about. Sometimes kids respond better when an outside asks them to do more to "help mom out" or "help the teacher".
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Post by Shandawn on Mar 2, 2004 0:44:52 GMT -5
My daughter actually is ready before its time to leave for school., but what about abscenses? Shes still adjusting to Straterra & she cries some mornings that her stomach aches. She wants to stay home. She loves her teacher & friends & has a mostly positive approach to school itself so I dont think this is just a ploy. The problem is she already missed a week for strep throat & a week with the flu & I dont want her to miss unless neccessary. The school is pretty accommodating, but they seem to be unhappy with the "stomach ache" excuse.
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Post by Mayleng on Mar 2, 2004 10:42:18 GMT -5
My daughter actually is ready before its time to leave for school., but what about abscenses? Shes still adjusting to Straterra & she cries some mornings that her stomach aches. She wants to stay home. She loves her teacher & friends & has a mostly positive approach to school itself so I dont think this is just a ploy. The problem is she already missed a week for strep throat & a week with the flu & I dont want her to miss unless neccessary. The school is pretty accommodating, but they seem to be unhappy with the "stomach ache" excuse. Do you give her strattera with food? If she is still ramping up and still have stomach pains, you might want to give the pills in the evening with dinner until she reaches target dose and the side effects have disappeared. Check my response to you on the medication board. |
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