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Post by ohmama on Mar 18, 2009 13:23:16 GMT -5
I need some suggestions on what accomodations to request at an IEP (or just an informal meeting) concerning provisions for social skills training. If the school doesn't have any program that would help with this, can I request it be provided by them through a private organization? Are they required to pay for this?
My boys lack of social skills are getting him in trouble at school with being bullied. We strongly suspect this is because he may have Aspergers. He sets himself up as a target and acts like a fool with inappropriate behavior.
Now that he is stable with his bp it is starting to show that he really needs help with this. I just don't know what to ask for that is realistic to help him.
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Post by sld123 on Mar 18, 2009 13:52:58 GMT -5
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Post by greenie on Mar 18, 2009 17:00:23 GMT -5
my gf went to a meeting today on Aspergers Syndrome and Bullying...I will call her when she gets home and see what she found out, look at her paper work, etc.
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Post by Mayleng on Mar 18, 2009 17:05:23 GMT -5
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Post by hsmom on Mar 18, 2009 19:52:49 GMT -5
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Post by greenie on Mar 19, 2009 10:48:31 GMT -5
my friend had to go to work today, but she gathered up some info/book references that I will send to you soon. Hopefully it will help. my friend left the confrence a little disapointed because she was hoping to get more tools, other then the usual, redirect the bullying student and other such tactics. I just want to say how sorry I am this is going on...it really is painfull. My middle ds has aspie like characteristics
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Post by greenie on Mar 19, 2009 13:56:39 GMT -5
www.nickdubin.com/This guy, (aspergerguru) wrote a few books on the subject and is asperger himself. I hope this helps some. You may have to buy the books.
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Post by greenie on Mar 19, 2009 13:58:39 GMT -5
The greeting on nick dubins site,
Greetings!
Welcome to the website of Asperger's Guru,
Nick Dubin. This website exists to provide
individuals with autism spectrum disorders
(ASD) and their families information and hope.
Although Mr. Dubin speaks on a number of
important issues affecting the ASD community,
his primary speciality is in the area of bullying
prevention with regards to the ASD population.
Please make yourself at home and feel free to
contact Nick letting him know you were here!
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Post by greenie on Mar 19, 2009 14:01:45 GMT -5
here is a little bit of what is on the site. (Why Asperger children get bullied)
o Low Frustration Tolerance results in a decreased
ability to function in one’s environment. Frustration
tolerance is exacerbated by an inability to deal with
sensory stimuli, perfectionism, and unpredictability.
When frustration tolerance decreases and reaches a
threshold, it can lead to a meltdown, which makes the
person stand out as being different.
o Monotropism (a word borrowed from Wendy Lawson)
makes it difficult for individuals to pay attention to
more than one piece of information at a time. This can
cause someone to miss important pieces of
information and stay “stuck” during a conversation
and can have an adverse effect on one’s social skills.
o Motor Difficulties result in a decreased ability to
perform academic tasks involving writing and
drawing. They also make physical education class
very challenging. Difficulty with motor issues easily
shows up in the playground and in the classroom.
o Gullibility causes a person to believe everything
he/she hears, setting her/himself up to be the brunt of
a joke.
o Auditory Processing Difficulties create slow
processing of auditory information that makes it hard
to formulate a quick comeback,
o Problems Reading Nonverbal Cues make it difficult to
read body language and can cause misinterpretation
of information from one’s peers. Not understanding
what seems obvious to everyone else may frustrate
peers.
o Special Interests may seem out of the norm, and
other students may find those interests boring.
o Lack of Dating Experience may be perceived by
others as someone being gay due to lack of actual
experience. This can invite nasty teasing.
o Cultural Illiteracy becomes a problem because most
conversations in adolescence revolve around the
popular culture. People with Asperger’s may get
teased for not knowing about certain topical
information.
o Lack of Imagination creates a problem in playing
games that involve pretending. Also, it causes
inappropriate responses when telling the truth is not
the best option in a social situation.
o Odd Use of Language will often make the person
sound like a “little professor” talking. This makes it
hard to relate to others at age-appropriate levels.
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Post by ohmama on Mar 19, 2009 21:00:52 GMT -5
www.nickdubin.com/This guy, (aspergerguru) wrote a few books on the subject and is asperger himself. I hope this helps some. You may have to buy the books. Greenie, This is a wonderful link and I am sure I will have to get some of these books! It is painful to think about but on the positive side, I am glad I know what he is dealing with. Things at home have already improved now that I know what is wrong with him. Even his brother, after watching that aspergers and bullies video, is treating him better. It is as though we love him more now that we realize it's not his fault. Thanks so much for taking the time to post all this. |
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Post by ohmama on Mar 19, 2009 21:02:54 GMT -5
Thank you to everyone who replied. Every suggestion was very helpful  . |
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